We all know that life is never black and white. Never. Ever. And when you have kids, that becomes even MORE apparent.
I mailed off two parenting books to two mommas because I don’t use them.
I’m totally not being all “well, pat myself on the back” about not using them. I just can’t seem to read and then do. I can’t do it with anything – photography books, history books, parenting books. I think of myself as a visual learner, but I actually learn the best by just doing. I lead a mistake-ridden life, but I do learn from those mistakes. Usually.
I really dislike the titles that fly around the internets, but if I had to apply a title to myself, I’d say that I follow the What Feels Right Method of parenting.
New moms or dads or parents-to-be, don’t Google it. It doesn’t exist. I sometimes wish I knew what I was doing or had more of A PLAN, but I pretty much do what feels like the best thing to do at any given time.
There are days where I let Emma just do some quiet time in her room with a movie or a pile of books or some quiet toys. But then there are days when I remove everything and tell her to go. to. sleep. for. the. love. of. your. momma. GO. TO. SLEEP.
There are days when I care very much about what she is eating or drinking, and I keep sweets to a minimum, and I dole out only fruits or veggies for snacks. But then there are days when I let her have frozen yogurt with marshmallows and chocolate syrup and gummi bears. And then a popsicle from the ice cream truck later that same day. I know!! You might as well call CPS right now.
There are days when I run to pick Lucy up every single time she whines … and there are days when I finish what I’m doing and then casually walk over to get her up from the pile of tears she has melted into in those 2 and a half minutes. Because, y’all … Lucy cries about a lot of stuff. And she goes from squeak to FACE IS MELTING OFF in about 12 seconds.
The list goes on. Obviously, no matter how you parent, consistency is key. And we try to maintain a good balance around here. We don’t bounce all over the place and have different rules based on our moods or anything. We follow the same general guidelines on a daily basis. But I like to throw a curveball sometimes … solely to see the look on Emma’s face.
Like chasing down the ice cream truck tonight AFTER she had already had a frozen yogurt? SO WORTH the excitement of watching her run down the sidewalk behind me.
Actually, I’m writing up a blog post about a recent chain of events that lead to Emma getting taken out for that frozen yogurt by my running partner / her K3 teacher. And it was something that took WEEKS of consistency.
But there are some days when we let the rules fly out the window and just have fun. Snuggle in bed together waaaaay past bedtime. Have popsicles with all sorts of crazy fake colors that are probably going to give my kid some kind of ulcer. Ignore the fact that she’s reading instead of napping, because she’s reading. And quiet.
Skip baths to spend more time snuggling or reading before bed. Or tickling babies.
Throw a mattress on the floor and let Emma jump off of every inanimate object in our living room, because it is just too. hot. to play outside.
So … I guess what brought this up is the fact that I was going through some images and converting them to black and white to print & hang for our master bedroom makeover that is going to be taking place very soon. I whispered that because I know I’ve mentioned this before, and I’ve even had my finger hovering over the “buy it now” on some custom flooring at Home Depot for months. But something else always comes up. Until now. I can’t do this carpet any longer. I can’t do these “builder white” walls any longer. I just can’t.
So. From editing photos to a post about parenting … that’s how MY mind works.
Can you see the SMILES??
[all images edited with one of my own b&w presets that I’ve sat on for about a year now … still iffy about it]
And how are you doing today?